But Ruth said, "Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus may the LORD do to me, and worse, if anything but death parts you and me."…
Wow. What an dramatic, intense, and beautiful proclamation of devotion from Ruth to Naomi. A pledge of loyalty and love from a daughter-in-law to her mother-in-law.
It is such a treasure to find a deep friendship between two women that isn't plagued by insecurities and backbiting. The term "frenemy," a combination of the words friend & enemy, has actually become a frequently used term within our society. This is reflected in many popular television shows and movies, especially between women.
Let us be fully aware that these developments in our culture is not an accident. There is a powerful and strategic evil at work here. It seeks to divide and keep us from supporting and praying for one another. It wants us to look down our noses. It takes great delight in showing us the ugliness in others while blinding us to our own.
Ladies, this is exactly what the enemy wants. We've put a cutesy, funny little nickname on the concept of two women who pretend to be friends, but wish the worst for one another. Where's the outrage? The enemy wants us to believe that we all can't shine beautifully together in God's light; we have to push and shove each other out of the way. This mentality is completely contrary to what God says:
"You are beautiful for you are fearfully and wonderfully made."
God says that we are each beautiful and wonderfully made; no need for "frenemies" or dimming another's light so ours can shine brighter. There is an endless supply to go around.
There are many other reasons why we shy away from the same sex. I know some of you have been deeply hurt before. Do not worry. I have scars too, more than I care to count.
I struggled for years with the abandonment of my childhood best friend. I never received an explanation. She just announced that she didn't find our friendship satisfying anymore. Wow, talk about a punch directly to the gut! I felt as though decades of memories had been flushed down the drain. I hardened my heart. I swore that would be the last time anyone would make me feel like that again.
I got bitter. I pushed potential friends away...far away. The enemy's plans are greatly enhanced through alienation. It makes us vulnerable to deception and manipulation through our wounds and emotions. The more isolated we feel, the more we start to listen to our own inner monologue and ignore the instructions of God.
I have also had women try to reach their hands into my marriage convenant and take what God said belonged to me. They did not care if we had a family or built a life together. It is so easy to become bitter due to the actions and carelessness of women like this. I challenge you not to. These are ladies that truly need to know the goodness and redemption of God.
Forgive them anyway and most importantly, pray for them. We don't know who is depending on these women. We don't know what bump in the road caused them to stray from God or never accept His love in the first place.
The enemy uses people like this to create bitterness in us. Rise above and pray for everyone involved. Forgive for the wellness of your own soul. Holding on to anger or seeking revenge only hurts you and hinders the goodness God has for you. Breathe, pray, and trust that God will rectify the situation according to His will.
Lastly, pray for God to give you positive direction in your friendships. Ask the Lord to bring Godly, virtuous, and kind women to walk with you through life. Beneficial relationships should motivate, inspire, and enrich your life and walk with God! Trust in the Lord and He will guide you, my friend.